Renemarlina’s story: How the Confidence Curriculum changed me
Renemarlina is a single mother of two children. In this interview, she shares about her struggles as a single mother and her inhibitions towards entering the workforce again after more than five years of not working. Renemarlina completed the Daughters Of Tomorrow (DOT) Confidence Curriculum, and gained a renewed confidence and perspective, as well as the support of new like-minded friends. With the help of DOT, she was well-armed with the skills required by the administrative job position that she wants.
On single parenthood and its challenges
“My biggest challenge would definitely be caring for two children alone, because you are the mother and also the father. There are challenges in every facet – studies, activities, daily life. It’s really not easy. But along the way, with support from friends, family, and DOT, nothing is impossible.”
On the Confidence Curriculum, by Daughters of Tomorrow
“I gained more confidence; I am more open to new things. I used to be afraid of interviews, afraid to go out and meet new people, but after the curriculum, life coaching and everything DOT has offered me, I can see that I am much better than I used to be. I am not that shy anymore. Definitely brought up my confidence.
The curriculum also helped me with handling my children. After attending it, I know how to prioritize and how to manage my anger. Before, I would get angry when I cannot get something done, but now I have to know what my priorities are, what I am supposed to do, what I am not supposed to do, how I am supposed to handle situations. Currently, I feel much better in a way that I am able to control my anger, my timing, my children, and what is important.”
On entering the workforce again
“After attending the curriculum, it gave me more confidence; I am more ready to face the workforce. Another good point about it is that I made new friends. The people are actually going through the same thing as me – wanting to go back to the workforce, but lacking the confidence. So, we give each other support and encouragement. Anything we couldn’t cope with or handle ourselves, now we can. We support and tell each other, “you can do it”, it’s either you want to do it or you don’t want to do it.”
Favourite aspects of the training
“The orientation was my favourite. It was the first time I met the people who were in the curriculum, meeting them, knowing them and knowing what the Confidence Curriculum is about. Also, I liked the resume-writing part where you actually learn how to write a good resume, and how you would go about it. I also liked personal grooming; you learn about how you should dress up for an interview, and what you’re supposed to look like.”
Her proudest achievement
“My proudest achievement would be earn an award for the Most Promising Mum from DOT – it is the best goal I have achieved in my life. It makes me want to work harder to achieve my goals and do whatever I can to reach them. It lets you know that there are people who appreciate what you do, so it is a good encouragement. Also, I would like to add that my children are my motivation to move on. The day I brought home the trophy of the Most Promising Mum award, my children were the ones screaming and telling me, “Mummy, we are proud of you”! They are the reason I want to achieve my goals.”
On the future, and a hope for change
“Single parents should know they are not alone. There are organisations and people out there who are willing to help you. At the end of the day, it is about whether you want to help yourself for the better. If you are not helping yourself, despite help from a thousand people, it will still be the same – you’re still stuck there. The first step is to pick yourself up, and get the right sources to push you forward. You can be the same as other women. The key to achieving your goals is planning! Even if they’re small baby steps.
Financial planning is important but moral support and encouragement are, too. If your family and friends are constantly reminding you of your goals and what you want to achieve, to make sure you don’t go off track, then you know you have to do it.”